Wednesday, April 23, 2008

a little cheer

sometimes it is easy to focus on the things that you can not control. The things that really bring you down no matter how many times you just try to look at it and smile. I am very fragile at times and extremely sensitive. A trait that I think has always been a double edged sword…good because it really helps me to reach out to people and help and be compassionate…and bad becuase it really makes me vulnerable to getting hurt. When I have had my heart broken by silly boys, best friends in high school who let jealousy (or whatever) wedge between our friendship, and the realities of life and our physical fraility…I have often wished I wasn’t made this way. That I was built tougher…that I had that “thick” skin…that I wasn’t so darn sensitive. But then I realize…this is the person I was meant to be. A trait that gives me strength in some ways that I wouldn’t want to forfiet. So today…I am sharing…perhaps a little too much, but in a sense I am helping myself to realize that we do have the choice…truly…to adjust our perspective. We can choose to see the things that bring us down that we really can not control…or we can focus on the things that make us smile…that make us better…and that elevate us…

Today I opened my eyes to this little girl. She was my cure for what was ailing me…even though we have been struggling, this little one and I, lately. She is living up the last couple weeks of her “two year old status” like a champ and it has been a little unpredictable and tiring! But I know it is just the quirkyness of the 2 year old stage that brings this…she is, indeed, absolutely charming…

and a very real reason to shift my focus and see the positive influences in my life…

 

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thanks for the cheer, Ava (you are giggling right now on my lap looking at these pictures…I love the echoing of that sound in my mind as I think of what a happy girl you are) …I appreciate you all so much and for the perspective you give me…I love you all so much!  So sending out a smile and a big…”don’t sweat the small stuff!”  Life is indeed a blessing…overcome and just be happy!

 

xoxo

Tonya

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jen - April 23, 2008 - 4:37 pm

i love your photography…
would it be weird to take my family to CA just for a photo shoot?? :)
oh wait, there might be some other things to do there, too…

and your perspective on mommy life in general is refreshing to read…thank you.

two-id-ness is a tough one…i always try to remember how difficult it would be to BE two again…
to know what you want and start to have opinions…but not have people understand or even listen, always.
to be able to move easily…but have mommies/daddies always trying to limit you.
to want to explore new things…but not have the firm knowledge that things can hurt you.
i also try to remember that those traits that we find frustrating in the littles, are actually traits that we want our girls to have when they are older.

thanks again, your blog and pictures are absolutely beautiful.

Sharon - April 23, 2008 - 5:00 pm

Tonya…even at my age, I have to constantly tell myself not to sweat the small stuff. Life is a constant battle to keep ourselves happy. It is truly up to us to do that. I know that it is very difficult to do, but that is the way I choose to live MY life. I do not want all the bad things to ruin my life, so cheers to you, keep up the battle and Good and Happiness will WIN!!
Love you,
Sharon:)

Gena - April 23, 2008 - 5:52 pm

I love the border! Very pretty!

Love your fresh & positive outlook! You are always a helping hand and a smile to me as a sister! Thank you for always being there for me! Love ya!

Love the pictures!

Laura Richardson - April 23, 2008 - 7:55 pm

Congratulations on your new site!
Laura

take a bow Jenn - April 23, 2008 - 8:11 pm

Mommyhood is hard. But easier when you just admit that and accept your little ones for the challenge AND blessing that they are :) Thanks for the reminder to take the time to appreciate the good and the bad…to remember them everyday for the memorable and unmemorable moments! I love reading your blog…hope you are feeling more chipper soon!

Jenn

summerdayblues - April 24, 2008 - 8:19 am

What BEAUTIFUL pictures you have on your blog. Love them …
especially the ones with the red umbrella and the pink shirts
below … gorgeous! Hope to see more soon. Have a nice day!

Bethany - April 24, 2008 - 9:01 am

Thanks for such an insightful post. It is great getting to know more about the people “behind” the blogs I follow, but also to help remind me of what is truly important. My little one is almost two and the last two weeks with her have been 110% hard and frustrating, but truth be told, I can not fathom my life without her. Everything from her extremely blonde hair and bright blue eyes to her 13 year old attitude and super sass! I have blogged before about how much our children teach us…it is simply amazing!

nic - April 25, 2008 - 2:14 pm

tonya–i’m convinced you and i are cut from the same cloth–i’m exactly the same way. someone recently told me that it’s a gift, this ability to internalize the pain of others at such an acute level. so i’m trying to see it that way, as a gift. :)

Lori - April 28, 2008 - 1:16 am

I think on the journey of motherhood it CAN be so easy to “sweat the small stuff”…because for me, anyway, it can (at the time) seem like such “BIG” stuff! Life IS about perspective and attitude…and being gracious with ourselves when we are just who we are…
Thanks for your insights, and, as always, your beautiful photos! :-)

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